What is anal training? Training must be done in order to prepare your partner for Anal penetration. This can be done in a variety of ways including preparing alone or with a partner. Since the Anus is a muscle it must be trained to relax. Control must be practiced in order to allow the voluntary muscle to relax and accept penetration.
So back to my question, “What is anal training?” It is the physical and mental training required to participate in safe and pleasurable anal play. To understand the physical, you must first understand how the body works. The first thing to know is that the anus is packed with nerves, and those nerves have the ability to transmit pain, but more importantly, pleasure. This is one of the many reasons that anal sex can be so amazing. The other important fact is that essentially there are two muscles in the anus that work together to make the system work properly. One of those muscles, the one on the inside is an involuntary muscle and you don’t have any control over how that muscle works. The muscle that controls the opening to the Anus is a voluntary muscle meaning you can control that muscle. In fact, we control that muscle every day and we do it without even thinking about it as live our lives and choose when to use the bathroom. These muscles are called sphincters and they work like valves that open and close in order to perform their normal body function.
From a sexual aspect, anal training comes into play when you or your partner manipulate and stretch the exterior muscle by touching or massaging the opening of the anus. This is done so you become comfortable with the sensation of relaxing that muscle and also teaching yourself to control the muscle.
As you become comfortable with the touching and as your body relaxes you can advance a finger or a small toy past the opening of the anus. As you feel the contractions, the muscle will continue to relax and you will be able to advance multiple fingers into the Anus. As with any other muscle the more you work it the more effective it becomes. You can also do Kegels, the contracting and holding motion will also aid in the training process. Like any other muscle that stretches, the contraction will keep you tight and firm.
Anal toys are another great way to allow you gain control of the sensation and muscle control needed in preparation for Anal penetration. One of the most common toys is a butt plug. These plugs come in many sizes, from thin to thick and vary in length. There are several training sets available on sites like Adam and Eve that specifically address Anal training. These kits usually come in small, medium and large. Stay away from the jelly type toys, they can be a breeding ground for bacteria. Glass toys can be fun because they warm to the touch of a body. Another toy that can be fun to play with are Anal beads and for more advanced users, solid steel balls for anal insertion. There are also inflatable toys, steel plungers and speculums that can be used to train your partner. The thing to remember whenever you engaging in Anal training that this should be a positive experience. Inserting a toy into your partner can be dangerous and you must always use great care when exploring this type of activity.
Another thing to remember is the anus does have some lubrication, but it is not directly made for the kind of lubrication you need for anal penetration. It is important to use plenty of lubrication and this will protect the body and the sensitive lining of your anus from tearing and pain. The thing to remember is never to rush because you want your partner to have an amazing experience filled with pleasure.
Equally important is the mental stimulation and comfort of your partner. Part of this preparation is to talk to your partner before, during and after the training. You need to hear from your partner to make sure that pain is not part of this training. If everything is done properly, there should not be pain, only ecstasy. If the largest sex organ in the body is the brain, then it is important that you stimulate and relax your partner. Help your partner relax by deep breathing and showering your partner with gentle caresses.
It may take hours or several training sessions to make your partner ready for anal penetration, but resist the urge to rush. The training process can be as pleasurable as the penetration if done properly and i think it is important to never miss out on pleasure. There is a great pleasure to be shared in the taking the time to ready your partner for a new experience, and this is definitely one of those times. Training your partner is not only a benefit for your partner, but it will help you become more in tune with what your partner feels and needs. It not only listening to their words but the unspoken language of their body.